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Why Are Small Things A Problem?
kyndra claY, may 2025


Why are Women getting shamed for proposing to their loved ones?

I never understood women recieving backlash for proposing to their boyfriends instead of the traditional arrangement.  I mean why are you hating because two people are happy with their life, so what if it’s not normalized? Just let people be happy. Don’t hate on people who have found love just cause you haven’t.. Maybe you would find the love of your life if you change your attitude and found a way to love other people and support them.

Ring Vs Relationship
Here’s a problem that bothers. Why does the cost of a ring matter? Really, you should just be happy that someone truly loves you for you. So what if it's not a 1-10k ring? if that’s a problem then you just may be the entire problem because you should never up your standards for a ring meaning like just because you see other people on the internet getting a expensive ring doesn’t mean you have to change your standards and be like them. Some women would cry over a 100 dollar Amazon ring just because they are in love. The cost of the ring shouldn’t come between you and your relationship. That would just mean you're a gold digger, I’m just keeping it real.

Why does asking for girl things feel like a crime?

In my experience, asking for girl products feels like a bad thing when it shouldn’t. Ladies Ladies, we are human and we have things that go on with us We go through monthly periods, we may go through pregnancy, we can go through whatever and still be the strongest woman. I feel like at some point in life we should just say f*** it and ask for things without feeling embarrassed and if they laugh or whatever just don’t care.

Okay last thing I promise, why are both women and men shamed for having jobs now? If anything we should be proud of that. I’m personally so sick of hearing the phrases “Only women belong in the kitchen” and “Only men are supposed to be out working.” Who in their right mind has a say about that? I hate to be that person but not all women can cook, not all men know how to work, and nobody is perfect to do either. We shouldn’t judge each other based on our situations. , We are all human whether you like it or not.. I’ve seen so many people succeed in both cooking and working and still provide for their families in the best way and if anything that should inspire you to be better.

With me saying all of this, we need to do better and I'm being so serious. This is hurting us without noticing and some people actually hurt themselves over things like this.

kyndra clady

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    • Artist Corner
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      • Infintium Ad Eternum
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    • Senior Farewell
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    • Teacher's Corner: Gordon
    • Teacher's Corner: Wilde
    • Teacher's Corner: David
    • Teacher's Corner: Ejzak
    • Rago: I like to move it move it