For those who don't know, the so-called ‘male-loneliness epidemic’ is based on research that shows that 15% of all men have reported that they have no close relationships with anyone. On average, men have 50% fewer close friendships than women, the number plummeting over the last 20 years. Young men are facing heavy under-socialization, men under 30 are more likely to be single than women, and a third of men haven’t had sex in the last year. Now, hearing this you may be thinking; “Oh wow, that’s sad. What is causing these men to be so lonely? Women?”
The answer is that it’s no one's fault but their own. The male loneliness epidemic is not real; men just love pity. Men are also, in my opinion, being dramatic. Most of the men who report being so lonely only say this because they are forced to be single and celibate, as women have stopped taking disrespect and finally have standards. Boo-hoo. These men do not care about having friends, they only care about having a lady, which is the leading cause of their loneliness. Platonic love is just as important and special as romantic love, but instead of trying to form close platonic bonds, men simply do not care for their supposed friends–they probably don't even know their best friend’s last name. Is the male loneliness epidemic real, or is it an excuse to dig at women for not wanting to have sex with icky men?
I agree that it is sad that men are becoming lonelier and lonelier, but I also believe it is the consequences of their actions. In the past decade, men have become more unhinged, whether it be against themselves or women. Let’s address the #ihatemygf trend and compare it to the #ihatemybf trend. When the #ihatemygf trend first popped up on Twitter, you could tell that these men were not joking at all with this. A lot of them agreed with posts saying they lose feelings after their girlfriend has sex with them, they would cheat on said girlfriend, body shaming her, slut-shaming her, and probably more that I can’t think of. These might’ve been jokes, but they did not seem like it, and I know I didn’t find it funny. I know all men were not participating in this trend, but what I find interesting is that I didn’t see one man calling others out on this, saying it wasn’t funny, or how they could never do something like this to their girlfriend. Silence.
However, with the #ihatemybf trend, it was clear that most of these videos were jokes. No one is coming out and publicly admitting that they beat their boyfriend. From what I’ve seen, most of the girls who were uploading with this trend did not even have a boyfriend, or said boyfriend would comment on the video with some funny response. Again, not all women were participating in this, but I saw a little too many women making their own videos, expressing how the trend wasn’t funny to them, and they could “never even think about hurting their wittle baby boy like that!!” You may think this is hypocritical, and what I’m explaining is a double standard, but at the end of the day, research shows how men treat their significant others. It’s history.
Other than that stupid online trend, there are other factors as to why I believe men have dug their own graves. They lack empathy for anyone. Seeing a man speak up about his sexual assault story, you will hear men saying how he should’ve enjoyed it, and that it’s not that serious. They treat women the same way. When a woman speaks up about her story, according to some men, she's lying. Why are they surprised that they are lonely when they act like this?
A lot of these men also report themselves as being lonely, when really it is just being single. There is nothing wrong with being single, or celibate. No one absolutely needs romantic love, even if it is a nice thing to have. They tend to focus on trying to be in a relationship or having a one-night stand rather than bonding with their buddies. I speak to men and realize how ‘manly’ they are. It disgusts me sometimes. I wholeheartedly believe men do not realize how hurtful and mean the things they say are. They will bash their own friends for just about anything while playing it off as jokes. This leaves most of them insecure, and feeling the need to shame other people, leading to one big, bad cycle.
Men need to register in their heads that this mentality leads them to be so lonely. No one wants to be friends, let alone be in a relationship, with someone who is so out of touch and is just now discovering empathy at 25. They fail to understand what having real connected relationships means, and boil it down to just being absolute jerks. From patriarchal ideals, a lot of them find it easier to have a false sense of strength rather than facing their insecurities and bettering themselves. Male loneliness will continue to go on until they finally realize how outdated and stupid these ideologies are.
The answer is that it’s no one's fault but their own. The male loneliness epidemic is not real; men just love pity. Men are also, in my opinion, being dramatic. Most of the men who report being so lonely only say this because they are forced to be single and celibate, as women have stopped taking disrespect and finally have standards. Boo-hoo. These men do not care about having friends, they only care about having a lady, which is the leading cause of their loneliness. Platonic love is just as important and special as romantic love, but instead of trying to form close platonic bonds, men simply do not care for their supposed friends–they probably don't even know their best friend’s last name. Is the male loneliness epidemic real, or is it an excuse to dig at women for not wanting to have sex with icky men?
I agree that it is sad that men are becoming lonelier and lonelier, but I also believe it is the consequences of their actions. In the past decade, men have become more unhinged, whether it be against themselves or women. Let’s address the #ihatemygf trend and compare it to the #ihatemybf trend. When the #ihatemygf trend first popped up on Twitter, you could tell that these men were not joking at all with this. A lot of them agreed with posts saying they lose feelings after their girlfriend has sex with them, they would cheat on said girlfriend, body shaming her, slut-shaming her, and probably more that I can’t think of. These might’ve been jokes, but they did not seem like it, and I know I didn’t find it funny. I know all men were not participating in this trend, but what I find interesting is that I didn’t see one man calling others out on this, saying it wasn’t funny, or how they could never do something like this to their girlfriend. Silence.
However, with the #ihatemybf trend, it was clear that most of these videos were jokes. No one is coming out and publicly admitting that they beat their boyfriend. From what I’ve seen, most of the girls who were uploading with this trend did not even have a boyfriend, or said boyfriend would comment on the video with some funny response. Again, not all women were participating in this, but I saw a little too many women making their own videos, expressing how the trend wasn’t funny to them, and they could “never even think about hurting their wittle baby boy like that!!” You may think this is hypocritical, and what I’m explaining is a double standard, but at the end of the day, research shows how men treat their significant others. It’s history.
Other than that stupid online trend, there are other factors as to why I believe men have dug their own graves. They lack empathy for anyone. Seeing a man speak up about his sexual assault story, you will hear men saying how he should’ve enjoyed it, and that it’s not that serious. They treat women the same way. When a woman speaks up about her story, according to some men, she's lying. Why are they surprised that they are lonely when they act like this?
A lot of these men also report themselves as being lonely, when really it is just being single. There is nothing wrong with being single, or celibate. No one absolutely needs romantic love, even if it is a nice thing to have. They tend to focus on trying to be in a relationship or having a one-night stand rather than bonding with their buddies. I speak to men and realize how ‘manly’ they are. It disgusts me sometimes. I wholeheartedly believe men do not realize how hurtful and mean the things they say are. They will bash their own friends for just about anything while playing it off as jokes. This leaves most of them insecure, and feeling the need to shame other people, leading to one big, bad cycle.
Men need to register in their heads that this mentality leads them to be so lonely. No one wants to be friends, let alone be in a relationship, with someone who is so out of touch and is just now discovering empathy at 25. They fail to understand what having real connected relationships means, and boil it down to just being absolute jerks. From patriarchal ideals, a lot of them find it easier to have a false sense of strength rather than facing their insecurities and bettering themselves. Male loneliness will continue to go on until they finally realize how outdated and stupid these ideologies are.
